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Every man (gay, straight, or other) should read this. I feel so ashamed of some of the things I’ve said to women who’ve “complained” about being ogled on the street. Never again will I brush aside those concerns.
Check out an excerpt from a private message board with a few women candidly discussing their everyday experiences with being hassled by assholes.
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I mean, I guess it’s a thing, even if it’s not a particularly widespread problem. But most things labeled “misandry” are really just people playing that “[my gender] rules, [your gender] drools” game. And if you didn’t get over that in third grade, I suppose a word like misandry might come in useful. But other than that? Widespread and systemic fear of or discrimination against men isn’t a problem we face in our society.
Yes, somebody might occasionally write something like, “I wish all men were dead.” Or, “men are useless and should be exterminated.” But they generally don’t follow that by actually killing men.
I advise storing “misandry” right next to “I’m not anti-Semitic, but,” “reverse-racism,” and “you people always….” If you find yourself tempted to throw out any of those phrases, reconsider. You’re in a pissing-contest—and you’re probably about to dribble on yourself.
Difficulties are shaping their decisions about careers, schooling, marriage and parenthood.
The analysis by the Pew Research Center, released Thursday, examines the effects of the recession on the lives and attitudes of young Americans ages 18 to 34.
Nearly half say that in recent years they’ve taken a job they didn’t really want, to pay the bills. More than a third have gone back to school because of the poor economy. About a third have postponed either their plans to get married or have a child, and one in four say they have moved back in with their parents after living independently. And fewer than half of young people who are now employed say they have the education and training necessary to get ahead in their jobs.
With government economic data showing a record gap in employment levels between the young and all working-age adults, the Pew survey found that 41% of Americans believe that young adults have been hit harder by the recession than other age groups, while 29% said middle-aged adults have had the toughest time, and 24% said those 65 and older have had the worst of it.
Large majorities of those surveyed also said it was harder for today’s young adults to reach basic financial goals that their parents’ generation took for granted, including saving for the future, paying for college or buying a home.
Young people themselves are also acutely aware of their struggles, the study showed. Half of those 18 to 34 said their age group has suffered the most because of the nation’s weak economy.
(Source: Los Angeles Times)
Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”.
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There it is.
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because you are a moral burden and part of the reason that anyone who is not ‘normal’ is instantly marginalized and cast aside.
ok so here is the thing - this is what i said! for a long long time! like, i live in a town where our local newsletter is inundated by HAPPY HOLIDAYS! NO! MERRY CHRISTMAS! NO! letters to the editor on an annual basis, and i always thought it was the stupidest thing, the actual stupidest thing, like why are we arguing about this, it’s just a greeting, it’s just a pleasantry, it’s no big deal!!! like, i saw people getting pissed off in the newspaper and i was like, ha, i am too cool to care about this, WHATEVER, i am jewish and when you wish me a merry christmas, I WILL HAVE A MERRY CHRISTMAS! AT THE MOVIE THEATER AND THE CHINESE RESTAURANT! HO HO HO TO ME!
but now i feel differently! and here is the thing:
jews don’t typically go around saying “happy chanukah” to people they don’t know.
african americans (or rather, those african americans who celebrate kwanzaa; not all do) don’t typically go around saying “joyous kwanzaa” to people they don’t know.
but (some? many? certainly not all, but a large number of) christians do - not out of any sort of ill will, of course! - go around saying “merry christmas” to people they don’t know.
and that is because jews and african americans have something in common, and something that differentiates them from christians - which is that they are minority groups. and when you’re part of a minority group you are made fundamentally aware, from the get go, that just because something is true of you doesn’t make it true of others. it’s not a lesson you have to take the time to learn, it’s something that is made abundantly clear to you from pretty much the beginning. so for me, going around wishing people whose religions i don’t know a happy chanukah would be like going around saying happy birthday to other people ON MY BIRTHDAY. like, that is how bizarrely self-centered it would feel, to me, to assume that my holiday is necessarily other people’s holiday.
and if you’re a person who celebrates christmas, then you probably don’t have that awareness! which doesn’t make you a bad person, it’s not your fault. that lesson wasn’t forced on you the way it was forced on us. that lesson maybe wasn’t even offered to you. it’s like you’re a kid in a class where 29 out of 30 kids do share your birthday! so it’s totally understandable that you think that everyone does - or i guess, more accurately, you may know that not everyone shares your birthday, but it’s not really something that occurs to you unless you take the time to think about it. but the thing is, you should take the time to think about it. we don’t all share your birthday, and once that’s been pointed out to you, you should try to remember it.
which is why, like, when someone says merry christmas to me, i don’t think they are EVIL. i don’t think they’re deliberately being unkind or rude or disrespectful. they’re just still in that metaphorical classroom where almost everyone shares a birthday. it’s a little… i don’t know, tiring? to be wished a merry christmas over and over and over without any consideration of the fact that it might not apply to me, but i don’t get truly offended, honestly. but you know what, i get PISSED. THE FUCK. OFF by the letters to the editor i see in the newspaper where they’re like YOU KNOW WHAT, PEOPLE TELL ME TO SAY HAPPY HOLIDAYS, BUT I WILL NOT, BECAUSE: CHRISTMAS!!!! IS MY HOLIDAY AND MY RIGHT, THIS IS AMERICA GOD DAMMIT AND ALSO FREE SPEECH. because once the we-don’t-all-share-a-birthday thing is pointed out to you, you should fucking know better, and you should grow up, and you should use inclusive language. it’s not even hard.
TLDR: THE BIG DEAL IS RESPECT
happy holidays, all!
When people say merry Christmas to me, this is what happens.
They think they’re saying I hope you have fun this Christmas.
But what I hear is I assume you are Christian because all people are Christian, and I only care about Christians, and my well-wishes are only for you if you’re Christian, because if you’re not, you don’t count as a person to me.
So say happy holidays if you have to say something. (And, for bonus points: don’t say the holiday spirit and really mean the Christmas spirit. The amount of times I have had to go, “well, I don’t have ‘the holiday spirit’ because it’s not my holiday,” when people mention ‘the holiday spirit’ will never cease to enact the exact same response mentioned above.)
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#it’s only a problem now because it suddenly effects white people #just like poverty #and unemployment #lack of healthcare #etc
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Three years ago, I posted a picture of myself online for the first time. In this picture, I was outdoors, had a ponytail and wore sunglasses. This photo, I thought, conveyed two things: (1) I was outside, and (2) it was sunny. My first and only e-mail about that photo: “You’re an ugly fucking cunt.” A year later, I changed it. This time, my hair was long, I wore make-up, had glasses on and was smoking. “She’s ‘doable’ if she dropped the ciggies, the cutesy glasses, and the man-hating attitude,” one man wrote. This year, I changed it again. Everything had changed but my face; my hair was short, I wore no makeup, and I had dropped the ciggies and glasses. The response: “Hey whens the womyns music festival… Ugly sack of shit freak!!
I understand your pride in what you’ve accomplished, but I want to ask you something.
Do you really want the bar set this high? Do you really want to live in a society where just getting by requires a person to hold down two jobs and work 60 to 70 hours a week? Is that your idea of the American Dream?
We start with a group of people living as slaves for 250 years, in a nation that eventually bills itself as the land of liberty and free labor. We take what should be their wages and transfer them to someone else. For the last hundred years of that epoch we forbid them from marrying, and throughout we randomly sell off their kids, some of whom are actually our kids. We forbid them to learn to read. We subject them to random but frequent acts of sexual violence. We pass laws against that minority of them who are to achieve freedom ranging from bans on everything from voting to gun-ownership to serving on juries.
We then are forced to grant them freedom, but we pass more laws against them structured to keep them from exercising any sort of political power. We subject them to the most prolific and wide-ranging campaign of home-grown terror in American history. We burn down their schools, and in some sections of the country are so ardent in our enmity toward them that we actually attack education for poor whites, for fear that it may help blacks by mistake.
We enact policies at virtually every level of government, and virtually every sector of society, with the intent of keeping down the values of their homes, keeping them from competing with us for jobs, keeping them from ever ending up in any kind of supervisory role over our ilk. We mobilize the entire culture arsenal in an effort to portray them as pariahs, mocking them in movies, singling them out in virtually every human function from drinking to eating, from swimming to dancing, from copulation to defecation.
We do this for roughly 300 years. And then we develop a conscience, and for about 30 years we try to make up for what we’ve done, before deciding that our efforts constitute reverse racism. And then we sit around wondering why it is that a disproportionate share of black people can’t live in a nice neighborhood.
This is the unsexy story of anti-black racism. I’ve spent the past 20 years hoping to find my way around it and discover some hidden secret narrative that would better explain the color line. There is none. This is it. I understand that this will not get fixed in this generation. It took 250 years to get rid of slavery. I’m not pessimistic — I just think that war is long, and I have no expectation that it will end in my lifetime.
But when we talk about gentrification, understand that we really are talking about the result of actual policies endorsed, not simply by shadowy interests group, but by actual Americans, erected with the explicit intent of making sure that another group of Americans remain a permanent peon class.
You don’t have ADD. If you did, you wouldn’t have been able to do [thing I did].
- Friends and family, when I mention that I have ADD. (via microaggressions)
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