I’ve begun silently fighting back against jerks on the subway who sit as spread out as possible. Basically I match your stance.
This guy was sitting on the train with his knees splayed and his hands on the seat to either side of him. So I slowly backed up into the seat next to him forcing him to either move his hand or have me sit on it. Then I spread my knees equally wide and stuck my elbows out just as far.
It’s amazing how uncomfortable this makes men.
Eventually he closed his knees more (so I closed mine.) The ladies across from me noticed this silent warfare and were slightly confused. When he finally got off the train and I sat like a “lady” they realized what I did and grinned at me.
Yep. This is my new thing to do on the subway.
ur a little rebel i like u
You know why most guys sit like that?
It’s a body language signal known as a “crotch display” and it’s used to show dominance/confidence.
This is why guys get uncomfortable when women do this, and also why women are told to sit “like a lady” - basically, without the crotch display. When women do it, they’re telling all the dudes that they’re either stronger or on equal standing with them.
So I say right on, ladies! Go for it.
WE DO NOT SIT WITH OUT LEGS SPREAD BECAUSE WE WANT TO ‘SEXUALLY DOMINATE THE SCENE’ OR WHATEVER BULLCRAP YOU WANT TO COME UP WITH.
WE SIT LIKE THAT BECAUSE WE HAVE TESTICLES IN THE MIDDLE THAT ARE FUCKING SENSITIVE TO HEAT AND PRESSURE, MAKING IT MORE COMFORTABLE TO SPREAD OUR LEGS.
WE CLOSE OURS WHEN YOU ‘IMITATE’ US BECAUSE WE REALISE YOU WANT MORE SPACE AND SO WE BE POLITE AND GIVE IT TO YOU
WE SIT LIKE THIS ANYWHERE
HOW ARE WE OPRESSING YOU WHEN WE SIT LIKE THIS ON OUR OWN, IN PRIVATE?
NOT EVERYTHING IS THE GODDAMN PATRIARCHY
jesus christ sit down and learn something without complaining about your balls for two seconds
men are socially trained take up more space than women. this isn’t a fucking myth, okay? this isn’t girls whining because we have no leg room on the metro (though that accounts for something as well), this is because men are taught that they’re worth more, their voices, their opinions, their bodies, and women are conditioned to limit themselves: emotionally, verbally, mentally, physically. women are told to cross their legs and yet when a guy takes up space. whether people like it or not this social phenomenon is related to gender conditioning and now some dude thinks he can apparently shut down an entire gender-sensitive argument (while denying it is such) with “but my balls are hot”
look not to speak for them — i hope someone speaks up to give their thoughts — but i need to mention i hear reports of trans*men saying that during their transitions this is something they are taught to do: “dominate,” assert themselves, take up physical space without apologizing for it (i’m sorry if my wording isn’t the best) as part of their transitions to “pass” as men! because even subconsciously it’s something we acknowledge men do in this universe but are reluctant to allow women to do whether you accept it or not so fucking tell me people are just making this shit up one more time i stg
when you’re on public transportation, you’re not in private. air your balls out on your couch, not the train. mentioning your balls, they are not that big honey, they don’t need all that space
don’t lie to jesus and don’t lie to yourself
Of course it’s about sexism.
Why the fuck not.
fucking holy shit shut the fuck up tumblr
it’s fucking COMFORTABLE
Tumblr: Offended by everything even when there’s nothing to be offended by because we masturbate to our own victim complexes.
lol this isn’t a tumblr thing it’s been talked about academically for decades
and protip testicles aren’t fragile glass things you can walk with them without splaying your legs around like you’re riding an invisible horse can’t you? then you can fuckin sit with legs fairly close together
yes it is a sexism thing and anyone who thinks this is just “tumblr” is just outright wrong seriously you can read about it in books that predate the internet holy shit
I’m going to be honest with you. I hardly ever encounter dudes that keep their legs open like that in my city, not on the bus. On the rare occasions when I do, it’s seen as rude enough that even other dudes will give them dirty looks and tell them to “scoot over”. So I really, really doubt it’s about ball comfort.