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thescienceofjohnlock:

intern-skylar:

the-treble:

I was a little bothered by their use of the word “pussy” but other than that, this was a good piece. (source)

"being a real man is about knowing oneself as a man"

"being a real man is about knowing oneself as a man"

"being a real man is about knowing oneself as a man"

I actually quite liked that they used the word ‘pegged’ a few times XD

“Few things worry me more than people (okay, men) who say it’s difficult to know if someone’s consenting or not. This suggests to me not just that they could be violating someone’s consent, but that even if they aren’t, they’re having terrible sex. If your idea of sex is limited to “one partner silently gets on and grinds away and the other tolerates it,” it can be consensual, but it’s probably not much fun.”
“You can’t avoid communication in kink, because the category of “kink” is too wide open for there to be any “default” script for play. “Wanna hmm-hmm y’know? [meaningful eyebrow wiggle]” is just not ever going to convey “wanna tie me to a chair and verbally humiliate and lightly beat me?” You’ve got to come out and say it, because there’s just no other way your partner will have a clue what you’re thinking.”
“I wonder if the story would change if more guys realized that saying “if a woman gets me turned on, she’d better be ready to go all the way” is the same as saying “getting me turned on is dangerous, better not take the risk.””

toriar0se:

curtisplease:

curtisplease:

And then he ran into my dick…he ran into my dick ten times.

He had it cumming

LOLDSGK JBDF;GLKDSJFHGSDLKGJHUK

“Sex makes you vulnerable. It makes everyone vulnerable. Even if it won’t lead to True Everlasting Love. Even if you’re just friends, or scratching an itch, or strangers who meet on the train to Vienna, or having the rawest and sleaziest of Casual Encounters, I still think that you are opening yourself up to another person in a way that is sacred while it is happening. People are very quick to warn about the dangers of casual sex like unwanted pregnancy and STDs, but what they leave out is that in the moment, sex isn’t all that casual. You and another human made a decision to trust each other with everything you have, and for a little while, you stopped time. That’s amazing.”
filisexual:

sidneycrosbysdick:

emthroney:

helshades:

renegadepineapple:

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themanwiththebluebox:

itscandidlycara:

A quick visual guide to the hymen.

good lord yes, important information for those uninformed


The incredible thing is the number of people who ignore that, and the incredible amount of people within that number who are female.
You know, fanfiction writers should realise that a certain number of young female persons are learning about their own body reading fics that always describe the loss of virginity as searing pain + litres of blood.

Are—are there really people who knowingly ignore the fact and continue to perpetuate the myth?

Really seriously though the prevalence of this narrative is really disturbing to me

guess what, your first time is NOT supposed to hurt. Jesus it’s 2014.

Every time I see a post about hymens and virginity, I need to say this and reiterate it and just make everyone understand:
your first time is not supposed to hurt
your first time is not supposed to hurt
your first time is not supposed to hurt
IT IS NOT A REQUIREMENT TO BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME
REASONS YOU MIGHT BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME:
Not enough lubrication.
Not enough preparation.
Not enough foreplay.
Your partner is a giant dicksplash.
TIPS AND HINTS FOR YOUR FIRST TIME THAT I WISH I HAD:
LUBE IS YOUR VERY BEST FRIEND! Yes the vagina secretes a fluid that can act as a natural lubricant but that is not enough for vaginal sex. And for some women (like myself), they do not secrete nearly enough for even penetration, let alone sex. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH LUBE.
FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY!!! You want to be good and turned on, like super turned on, coz the more you’re aroused, the more pliant and warm your vagina is going to be, and it’s more likely to allow a dick in without tearing. Like even when you’re giving birth, doctors nowadays will actually massage the outer rim of your vagina so that everything loosens up and allows A FUCKING BABY TO BE BORN WITHOUT TEARING YOU.
PREPARATION (WHICH IS SOMEWHAT RELATED TO FOREPLAY)!!!! If you have never had anything in your vagina before, you’re probs gonna need a couple fingers in there to help you loosen up. This can easily be tied into foreplay.
A GENTLE, UNDERSTANDING LOVER WHO KNOWS AND RESPECTS THE ABOVE HINTS!!!! You don’t have to be in love with the person you first have sex with, but it should be someone who respects you and your boundaries!!! Before having sex with someone, explain to them these things and your masturbatory experience, your wants and needs. If they don’t respect that THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANYWHERE NEAR YOUR VAGINA.
Basically it comes down to this: if your partner says “it’s normal to bleed the first time,” sit him (or her) down and talk to them about what actually happens and how it’s supposed to go. If they respect that, cool. If they don’t, fuck ‘em. Actually no, don’t fuck them, dump their ass and find someone who doesn’t subscribe to the belief that anything as lovely and intimate as your first time having sex has to hurt.
This is a basic patriarchal myth to both scare women from having sex, as well as contribute to the laziness of men in terms of making sex enjoyable for their female partners.
Sex never has to hurt. And don’t you dare let anyone tell you that it fucking has to.
If you have health problems that legitimately make vaginal intercourse hurt, there are a billion other things you can do with your partner, and you should communicate your health issues to every single partner. Again, if they respect that, rock on. If they don’t, tell them ‘adios’ and leave the bedroom.

filisexual:

sidneycrosbysdick:

emthroney:

helshades:

renegadepineapple:

m

themanwiththebluebox:

itscandidlycara:

A quick visual guide to the hymen.

good lord yes, important information for those uninformed

The incredible thing is the number of people who ignore that, and the incredible amount of people within that number who are female.

You know, fanfiction writers should realise that a certain number of young female persons are learning about their own body reading fics that always describe the loss of virginity as searing pain + litres of blood.

Are—are there really people who knowingly ignore the fact and continue to perpetuate the myth?

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Really seriously though the prevalence of this narrative is really disturbing to me

guess what, your first time is NOT supposed to hurt. Jesus it’s 2014.

Every time I see a post about hymens and virginity, I need to say this and reiterate it and just make everyone understand:

your first time is not supposed to hurt

your first time is not supposed to hurt

your first time is not supposed to hurt

IT IS NOT A REQUIREMENT TO BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME

REASONS YOU MIGHT BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME:

  • Not enough lubrication.
  • Not enough preparation.
  • Not enough foreplay.
  • Your partner is a giant dicksplash.

TIPS AND HINTS FOR YOUR FIRST TIME THAT I WISH I HAD:

  • LUBE IS YOUR VERY BEST FRIEND! Yes the vagina secretes a fluid that can act as a natural lubricant but that is not enough for vaginal sex. And for some women (like myself), they do not secrete nearly enough for even penetration, let alone sex. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH LUBE.
  • FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY!!! You want to be good and turned on, like super turned on, coz the more you’re aroused, the more pliant and warm your vagina is going to be, and it’s more likely to allow a dick in without tearing. Like even when you’re giving birth, doctors nowadays will actually massage the outer rim of your vagina so that everything loosens up and allows A FUCKING BABY TO BE BORN WITHOUT TEARING YOU.
  • PREPARATION (WHICH IS SOMEWHAT RELATED TO FOREPLAY)!!!! If you have never had anything in your vagina before, you’re probs gonna need a couple fingers in there to help you loosen up. This can easily be tied into foreplay.
  • A GENTLE, UNDERSTANDING LOVER WHO KNOWS AND RESPECTS THE ABOVE HINTS!!!! You don’t have to be in love with the person you first have sex with, but it should be someone who respects you and your boundaries!!! Before having sex with someone, explain to them these things and your masturbatory experience, your wants and needs. If they don’t respect that THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANYWHERE NEAR YOUR VAGINA.

Basically it comes down to this: if your partner says “it’s normal to bleed the first time,” sit him (or her) down and talk to them about what actually happens and how it’s supposed to go. If they respect that, cool. If they don’t, fuck ‘em. Actually no, don’t fuck them, dump their ass and find someone who doesn’t subscribe to the belief that anything as lovely and intimate as your first time having sex has to hurt.

This is a basic patriarchal myth to both scare women from having sex, as well as contribute to the laziness of men in terms of making sex enjoyable for their female partners.

Sex never has to hurt. And don’t you dare let anyone tell you that it fucking has to.

If you have health problems that legitimately make vaginal intercourse hurt, there are a billion other things you can do with your partner, and you should communicate your health issues to every single partner. Again, if they respect that, rock on. If they don’t, tell them ‘adios’ and leave the bedroom.

francesetherealgumm:

Like, I think it’s really important to recognize that even casual sexual exchanges and the interactions that lead up to them are full of feeling

I think that is something both demisexuals and people who push compulsory casual sexuality need to hear

Some of the other things that are very common in porn is the very stereotypical scenario where a woman says “No” but then she’s somehow forced to do the sex act anyway and at some point she discovers that she really loves it and that’s what she’s dreamed of doing her whole life and that’s extremely common in pornography.

And when you have guys masturbating to something like that, learning about sex from something like that what that’s actually teaching them is that A) Women’s boundaries don’t matter, B) Anything you do to a woman she’s always going to love it…They are watching this stuff, they are masturbating to it, they’re getting these messages and they’re internalizing these messages not just on an intellectual level in terms of ideas but also now physically in their bodies; what they feel.

When Mom said that the way to a man’s heart was through his stomach, she was about four inches too high.
Okay, now I’m… somewhere in the intestines.

How are men supposed to know what makes women happy when they are not women?
Gosh, what a quandary! If only women were capable of communicating somehow… maybe a crude tapping code or pointing to simple pictures!

Hee hee hee.

“What is sex, really? It’s not a penis going into a vagina. Nor is it a penis going into an orifice. Nor is it the touching of sexual organs. Sex is the pleasure obtained from arousal and intimacy. Without that, it’s a gynecologist appointment.”
“People seem to imagine that talking about sex means talking in the dorkiest possible way, and I honestly don’t know why. Personally, I’ve never seen the romance in no-talking sex. I know it’s supposed to be all “swept off your feet by the heat of the moment” and shit, but in practice it always seems more clumsy and oafish, like trying to convey the concept of “Deleuze’s Plane of Immanence” in Pictionary. With your feet. There’s shit you can’t just convey, you know? Even in long-standing relationships, it’s pretty goddamn hard to say “I want to gently pull your hair while we fuck and whisper sweet dirty things in your ear” with raised eyebrows and meaningful looks. And then you end up taking a chance and just grabbing their hair when it seems like a look has been meaningful enough, and then they stop everything and go “what the hell are you doing?”, and boy, you think you’ve seen awkward. Even the most stilted negotiation has nothing on the awkwardness of that crushing moment when you’re forced to admit you don’t have Sexy ESP after all.”
“We plan pretty much all of our activities, social or otherwise. We ask, negotiate, detail the plans and check in to confirm. We can even take classes to learn how to be better at certain aspects of social and work things: Cooking! Party planning! Etiquette! Why don’t we do this about sex? Why do we wait until the very last minute to get the details set? Or just fumble into bed with hopefully willing partners?”