information addict

Here’s a big one: When online dating, I am automatically skeptical of people who list a whole bunch of books, music, and films in their profile but who fail to list any works by women. Sometimes, if the guy seems cool in other ways, I might bring it up – “Do you have any favorite books or albums by women?” 10% of the time I get a nice answer, like, “You know what, I never thought about it, but I do! Here they are.” Or sometimes I get an honest confession of “Can you recommend me some good stuff? I’m showing my ignorance.” And then that dude is cleared for possibly dating. But 90% of the time I get some defensive pretentious explanation for why he just likes art by men better and that’s just his preference and he’s not going to give chick art affirmative action by liking it just to meet chicks and I should really just dig his total honesty and, I guess, willingness to be a dick in defense of TRUTH and BEAUTY and LITERATURE, as if ignoring the creative output of half the human race is the fault of half the human race and not your own embarrassing pig-ignorance. I tag these people “DANGER: EXTREMELY UNFUCKABLE” and move on.

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Reader question #54: Dating while feminist. « CaptainAwkward.com

Ha! This whole post is great.