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A year ago I was at a family event and a few of my mom’s friends—older women all—were expressing amazement that I would let my hair go gray. One of them—a woman I’ve known since I was born—said, “Men don’t mind it when their hair goes gray, because gray hair makes you look more intimidating. And a woman doesn’t want to look intimidating.”
She was so well-meaning, so concerned about my looking approachable and pretty, and I know she didn’t mean anything by it. But when she said this, so much rage welled up in me. So much. I made a joke and changed the subject, but all I wanted to do was scream. Loudly.
Because: do I want to look intimidating? God, yes. I do. Yes, please, I very much fucking do.
- Alice Bradley - Blog - On being an object, and then not being an object
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^ I’ll let my hair go grey and put bright colored streaks in it!
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