This guy stopped watching porn — and he wants you to know why. Gender activist Ran Gavrieli felt that most of the images he saw in porn encouraged negative, even violent, attitudes toward women, despite a recent wave of feminist porn. So he pulled the plug, and found that his personal sex life and private fantasies became much more fulfilling.
In his talk at TEDxJaffa, he advocates for physically and emotionally-safe sex, as well as erotica that shows a wider range of fulfilling sexual experiences — including the intimacy of human connection, laughter, and touch. Watch his talk here.
Even if you don’t watch porn on a regular basis its conventions can still easily fuck up your internal sexual narrative. As a woman experiencing or fantasizing about (heterosexual) sex I realized that I began finding it easier to immerse myself in the imagined pleasure of the man than my own. Ain’t that some shit.